Weeks before I graduated university, I was offered a job. The position would put me in Manhattan full-time and pay in the range of $80,000/year. For someone fresh out of school, that’s really good money, and living in New York city made it even more alluring.

But I turned it down. Without even a second thought, I turned it down. I’d been away from my daughter for the better part of four years by then and the thought of…